How to Best Help Your Child (in 4 Steps)

We’ll tell you what your little one will learn at each stage and what you can do to support them. That way, you can really do it together.

For children, potty training is like learning something new—just like learning to walk and talk. You can help your child through this process. Potty training happens in four steps. We’ll explain what your child will learn at each step and what you can do to support them. That way, you can really do it together.

Step 1 - Your child starts to show interest

Please note! The diaper stays on.

Your child will learn that older kids and adults don’t wear diapers—they use the toilet. Your child will learn what the toilet is for. And that even when you’re still little, you can pee or poop in a potty. Your child will learn to recognize afterward: “I’ve pooped or peed.”

Talk to your child about potty training and the toilet. Point out when your child has pooped or peed in their diaper. You can talk about poop and pee, and read books about the toilet. Take your child to the toilet and show them what happens there. Flush the toilet together, listen, and watch. Keep it fun and give compliments!

Step 2 - First time on the potty

The diaper comes off for an hour or so every now and then, a few times a week. The rest of the time, the diaper stays on.

Your child is learning to recognize when they need to go: "I'm pooping or peeing." "Hey, what's happening? What's that? And what's the potty for?" In this stage, your child will use the potty or toilet for the first time.

You’ll learn to recognize and name your child’s cues.What does your child show when they need to pee or poop? Before, during, and after. Name what you see. Encourage your child to sit on the potty with their bottom bare. You can use the toilet, but it’s not necessary at this stage.

Step 3 - Using the potty or toilet more often

  • The diaper is being left off more often and for longer periods of time. First for an hour, every day. Then for an hour and a half. Then gradually longer and more often. Until the diaper is left off for half a day. But only if there are fewer and fewer accidents. At other times, the diaper is still on.
  • Your child is learning to sense and recognize when they need to pee or poop. They can handle it on their own—going to the potty or the toilet. They’ll tell Mom or Dad when they need to go. Your child will start practicing on the toilet, using a step stool and a toilet seat reducer.
  • You’ll help your child establish a regular toilet routine and learn to recognize their rhythm. You’ll identify the cues so that your child can get to the potty or toilet on time more and more often.

Step 4 - Goodbye, diaper!

  • ‍Pick a day when you won’t use a diaper at all (if you’ve followed steps 1, 2, and 3).
  • Your child is now learning to use the toilet all on their own. That means: sensing when they need to pee or poop, holding it in if necessary, and letting you know or saying, “I need to go to the bathroom!” Then they take off their pants by themselves, sit on the toilet—even without a toilet seat reducer—wipe, wash their hands, and flush. They can do this even when out and about or in other places.
  • In this step, you’ll pay extra close attention, and together you’ll make it to the bathroom on time more and more often—until there are no more accidents.

When is a child potty-trained during the day?

Your child is potty-trained during the day if they can sense when they need to go, get to the toilet in time, and can use the toilet completely on their own—including wiping, washing their hands, and flushing. This applies to other places as well. Accidents are still okay, but no more than twice a week.