How do I react to accidents?
Accidents happen. How you react often determines whether your child continues with confidence or stops with anxiety. Calmness and simplicity help the most.
In this section, you'll get exactly what you need to get started right away, step by step.
Stay neutral
Say briefly: "Pee belongs in the potty, we'll try again later."
Why this works: You provide clarity without pressure or shame.
Avoid punishment or jokes
Getting angry or making a joke about it makes your child insecure.
Why this works: Neutral reactions keep it safe and predictable.
Focus on the next chance
Say: "You'll do better next time."
Why this works: You're looking forward, not back.
Clean up calmly
Change clothes without comment.
Why this works: It remains a small, normal moment.
Later, when they succeed, give extra positive reinforcement: "Good job going on the potty!" This teaches your child what it's all about.