How do I talk to the school about my child’s potty training?

Schools often invite parents to come meet the staff before their child starts school. This usually happens 1 or 2 months before your child turns 4. Children are also usually allowed to spend a few mornings at school to get used to the environment.

• When you first meet, let them know that your child is still in the process of potty training. Be honest about what your child can and cannot do yet.
• Ask what exactly your child needs to be able to do.
• Be sure to show your child the restroom at school during orientation or their first visit.
• Ask what the rules are about changing into clean clothes if your child wets or soils their pants. Does the teacher handle that, or do they expect you to bring a change of clothes to school? 
• Be sure to let other caregivers and your coworkers know that your child will be starting school.
• Keep practicing at home with your child, and keep it positive. So don’t say, “You can’t go to school if you can’t use the bathroom!” That might make your child feel sad or scared. Instead, say: “That’s great—you’re almost ready to use the bathroom. Just like the big girls and boys who go to school!”
• Practice putting on and taking off pants, leggings, or tights on your own, and choose clothes without complicated buttons for school.
• Sometimes children start with half-days at school. For example, if your child is very tired after school. Talk to the school to see if that’s an option for you.